How to make it even worse?
No one realizes that in most cases, communication between a boss and an employee rarely leads to improved relationships between them. Even when a boss praises their subordinate. However, relationships are what ensure good communication. No, I’m not talking about flattery or being overly familiar. No. But if a leader wants to be heard, they need to make it so that people listen to them. And not just listen with impatience, waiting for it to be over, but with attention and interest.
It turns out that every time communication leads not to the convergence of metadata, but rather to de-correlation Would a television be useful if the image deteriorated irreversibly every time it was turned on?
The problem is further exacerbated by the fact that the essence of communication between a boss and an employee often involves the boss conveying that they are lowering their expectations of the employee (possibly even for the sake of self-affirmation or to address their own complexes): “You can’t even solve the simplest task without me!” Moreover, even when giving praise: “Well done, I…I didn’t expect that from you at all.“Isn’t it interesting that if you keep telling a person they’re a camel, will they start to feel like an eagle? A good friend of mine compared me to a panda. And what did that lead to? New profile pictures 🙂”
People tend to display the behavior that is expected of them. This is an evolutionary acquisition. If people behaved unexpectedly towards one another, they would not be able to form communities. Here is an example from my own life. At school, in the third grade, I was ill a lot and fell behind the syllabus. The teachers stopped expecting anything of me and came to believe that I was a stupid D-student, even though for the first two years I had done brilliantly. And you know what, I became and stayed a stupid D-student for the rest of school, out of which I was pushed into a vocational college in the 8th grade. I was lucky, though: the college (a culinary school) was not a shameful exile for me but a goal I had been aiming at — I wanted to become a cook. And… at the college nobody knew I was a D-student. They took me for a star pupil: I was inclined to be active in class and to ask the teachers questions, because I was living out my dream! And you know what, I was a star pupil. And afterwards I was one not only at the college but at both of the universities I went on to. In fact I have remained an “A-student” all my life. The upshot: we have two factors which, when a subordinate and a boss talk to each other, produce the opposite of the desired effect. Communication gets worse, and the subordinate’s behavior gets worse as well, adjusting itself to the boss’s expectations.
It’s not surprising that subordinates are irresponsible, passive, foolish, and unreliable. Their boss simply didn’t give them a chance to become or be different. Even if he wanted to, he couldn’t communicate that. Perhaps he didn’t even know how to build relationships. two-way communication