Why couples fight about the same thing
In an argument the truth is lost. The one who ends the argument is the smarter one. — L. N. Tolstoy Seen from a distance, conflict looks like a sign…
A Formula Without the Fine Print
Take the rule that whoever loves less holds the power. Picture two people: one moved to the partner’s country, gave up work, barely speaks the local language and spent several…
Stubbornness with a switch
Persistence is needed for almost any noticeable result. The first attempts are often poor, refusals outnumber agreements, and learning looks like a series of proofs of your own inexperience. In…
Learning from a Master Without Becoming a Copy
The culture of originality demands that you sound like yourself straight away and is suspicious of imitation. But learning almost always begins with repeating someone else’s form; the problem appears…
Let them finish
A culture of speed treats the good conversationalist as the one who understands fast and answers fast. So interrupting is easily disguised as quick-wittedness: the point is already clear, why…
The decision after cooling down
A strong emotion narrows the field of view. In anger you see the injustice and almost nothing of the consequences of your reply. Being in love shows you the virtues…